11 June 2025

Relational Science: Rethinking Time, Matter, and Causality

1 Why Science Needs an Ontology of Relation

Science is often taken to be the least philosophical of human endeavours — a domain of hard data, concrete measurements, and methodical detachment. But beneath its rigorous methods lies a world of assumptions: about what exists, how it exists, and how we can know it. These assumptions are ontological, whether acknowledged or not.

This post inaugurates a series that brings those hidden ontologies into the light — and proposes a new foundation: an ontology of relation. We'll suggest that concepts long taken as givens in science — time, matter, energy, causality — are not pre-existing containers or forces, but relational abstractions. They are ways of making-with the world, not of standing outside it.

The Inherited Ontology of Substance

Since the Scientific Revolution, Western science has been haunted by the legacy of substance metaphysics. In this view, the universe is made of discrete objects — inert things that possess properties and exert forces. The role of science, then, is to discover and measure the properties of these things, and the laws that govern their interaction.

But this worldview is not neutral. It reflects a particular way of being in the world: one that privileges separation over connection, extraction over participation. And it generates abstractions — like "mass," "force," or "energy" — that are often mistaken for things rather than ways of organising experience.

The Illusion of Objectivity

Modern science prides itself on objectivity — the effort to remove the observer from the observation. But as quantum physics, systems theory, and even cognitive science have shown, there is no view from nowhere. Every act of knowing is a participation. Every measurement is a transformation.

This doesn’t mean science is invalid. It means science is relational: what we discover is shaped by how we approach, what we ask, and how we intervene. It means that concepts like “energy” or “time” don’t simply describe what is there — they organise a co-constituted reality.

Why This Matters Now

We live in an age of planetary crisis, when the limits of our extractive worldview are becoming devastatingly clear. The reductionist dream — of controlling the world by breaking it into parts — has shown itself to be unsustainable.

But the problem is not with science per se. The problem is with an ontology of separation that has often underwritten it.

What if we began again — not by throwing out science, but by re-grounding it in relation?

What if we understood time not as a background container, but as the unfolding of processes in co-emergence?

What if we saw matter not as stuff, but as patterned activity?

What if energy, causality, and even emergence could be reframed as relational events — not forces pushing from behind, but invitations pulling from within?

What This Series Will Explore

In the coming posts, we will trace concepts that sit at the heart of science — and reimagine them through the lens of relation:

  1. Time, as not a container but a co-becoming

  2. Matter, as not substance but patterned potential

  3. Energy, as not thing but transformation

  4. Emergence, as arising through entanglement

  5. Causality, as resonance rather than force

  6. Explanation, as poetics rather than proof

Our goal is not to dismantle science — but to offer it a deeper ground. Not to relativise truth, but to recognise that all truth is relation-bound — that even the most abstract concepts are born from our embeddedness.

An ontology of relation is not just a metaphysical proposition. It is a stance, a shift, a new way of participating in the world. One in which science becomes not the dispassionate mapping of what is, but the co-creative unfolding of what might become.

2 Rethinking Time — Not a Container but a Co-emergence

We usually think of time as something we move through — a river that carries us forward, or a line stretching from past to future. In physics, time is treated as a parameter: a neutral background in which events unfold. In everyday life, it is often seen as a container — a schedule to be filled, a resource to be spent.

But what if this view of time is a product of a deeper assumption — the ontology of substance — and not a necessary feature of experience or science?

In a relational ontology, time is not an external framework, but a pattern of co-emergence. It is not the thing through which things happen, but the happening itself — a rhythm that arises through the interrelation of processes.

Time as Instance, Not Continuum

In classical physics, time is often represented as a continuous axis, measurable and uniform — like a clock ticking in the background of the cosmos. But this presumes that time exists independently of the things that unfold within it.

In a relational view, time is not a container for change — it is the measure of change itself. It emerges with and through processes. Every unfolding of relation brings about its own time.

This aligns with insights from quantum theory and relativity. Time dilates and contracts not in absolute terms, but relative to processual relations — mass, acceleration, observation. It is not an invariant backdrop, but a participant in becoming.

The Experience of Temporal Relativity

Even in everyday experience, we feel that time stretches or contracts depending on what is happening and how we are involved. A moment of boredom feels endless. A moment of joy disappears in a flash. Time is not simply “passing” — it is being shaped by our relation to events, by our degree of involvement, by the quality of unfolding.

From a relational standpoint, these are not mere distortions of an objective timeline. They are expressions of how time actually works: not as a single thread, but as a tapestry of rhythms that arise from situated activity.

Time in Systems

In systems theory and complexity science, we already encounter time as nested, multi-scalar, and emergent. A tree, a forest, and a climate system each operate on different temporalities. Time in this sense is not a single clock, but a relational field of durational rhythms, arising from within and between systems.

A seed’s time is different from a market’s. A species' evolutionary time is different from the time of a technological transition. These different times do not exist within some larger Time — they are the very form of each system's unfolding.

Toward a Participatory Chronology

To reimagine time relationally is to undo one of the most foundational assumptions of the modern worldview: that time is “out there,” waiting to be measured.

Instead, we might understand time as always already situated. Each relation brings forth its own tempo, its own directionality, its own horizon of becoming.

In this view, science does not simply track time — it participates in it. Measurement is not a neutral observation of an independent variable, but a temporal co-creation. Every experiment has its own duration. Every observation occurs in time, but also helps bring it into being.

What We Gain by Letting Go of the Timeline

When we let go of time as container, several important gains become possible:

  • We reconnect science to life. The living world does not unfold in clock time but in rhythms of emergence and decay, rest and activity, call and response.

  • We make room for multiplicity. Time becomes plural, partial, ecological — not a single timeline, but a web of becoming.

  • We open to new kinds of knowing. Not just prediction and control, but attunement, resonance, and participation.

To rethink time is to rethink science itself — not as a detached tracking of pre-existing events, but as a way of becoming-with the rhythms of the world.

3 Matter as Patterned Potential

What is matter? For centuries, Western science treated it as the ultimate “stuff” of the world — solid, enduring, independent. The atoms of Democritus, the billiard balls of Newtonian physics, the mechanical substrates of industrial modernity.

But quantum theory, field theory, and systems biology have all undermined this view. And yet, in much of our thinking, matter still carries the residue of that older metaphysics — as the “hard” substrate underneath the “soft” layers of life, mind, and meaning.

In this post, we’ll explore how a relational ontology reframes matter — not as a substance, but as patterned potential. Not what the world is made of, but what it is always becoming through.

Substance or Structure?

We inherit from the tradition of substance metaphysics the assumption that things must be something in themselves, and that matter is what gives them that reality.

But in a relational ontology, what defines a thing is not its internal substance, but its relational coherence — its pattern of becoming within a wider network of activity.

Matter, then, is not a passive stuff that is acted upon by forces. It is not inert. It is potential structured by relation — patterned, provisional, always in the midst of transformation.

This isn’t a poetic metaphor. It’s consistent with how physics now describes fields and particles: not as solid “things,” but as local excitations in a broader field — temporary actualisations of potential.

Quantum Matter: The Potential That Precedes the Actual

In quantum mechanics, matter appears not as something already there, but as something that becomes actual through interaction. A particle is not “present” in a definite position until it is observed — and even then, only in relation to the observational frame.

This is not an artefact of measurement, but a feature of how matter exists: as potential waiting to be instantiated.

The wavefunction, in this view, does not describe a hidden particle. It describes the structure of potential outcomes, which cohere according to patterns of probability — and which only become definite when enacted in a relational event.

Matter as Temporally Inflected Pattern

From the relational standpoint, matter is not only patterned — it is temporally patterned. That is, its identity at any moment is shaped by what it has done and what it is poised to do.

A cell, for example, is defined not only by its spatial structure, but by its capacity for metabolic process, genetic expression, and responsive change. It is matter-in-process — matter that is always becoming.

Likewise, even a rock is not “static,” but slowly weathering, gravitationally interacting, chemically active. Its form is not an essence, but a stability within larger patterns of transformation.

The Role of Fields: Relational Grounds of Materiality

In field theories — from electromagnetism to quantum field theory — particles are not “things” added into space. They are disturbances in a relational medium. The field is the enduring structure of potential, and particles are local manifestations of that potential — actualised in particular configurations.

Matter, in this sense, is never independent. It is always a situated actualisation — a temporary node in a relational field.

To speak of “a particle” is to speak of an event in a network of possible relations — not an object outside relation.

From Matter-as-Thing to Matter-as-Relation

This reframing is more than philosophical. It transforms how we think about:

  • Material systems: as emergent and co-determined, not self-contained.

  • Bodies and ecologies: as mutual becomings, not assemblages of things.

  • Technology and design: as engagements with fields of possibility, not the imposition of form onto passive stuff.

And perhaps most importantly, it reminds us that matter is not mute. It does not simply wait to be shaped by us. It participates. It responds. It affords, resists, invites, withdraws.

Matter, in a relational ontology, is not the raw input for thought or culture. It is an active partner in world-making.

4 Science as Attunement, Not Control

Science has long been entangled with the idea of control. From Bacon’s dream of power over nature to the engineering triumphs of modernity, the scientific method has been praised for delivering predictive mastery: if we understand the laws, we can make the world obey.

But what if science is not about control at all?

In a relational view, science becomes not the means of dominating nature, but of attuning to it. Its power lies not in imposing order, but in deepening sensitivity — to pattern, possibility, and participation.

Let’s explore what it means to understand science not as command, but as attunement.


From Mastery to Reciprocity

The control model of science is rooted in a subject-object metaphysics: the scientist as knower, nature as known; the experimenter as agent, the world as passive recipient.

But relational epistemology begins with the insight that we are not separate from the systems we study. Knowledge is always co-constructed — shaped by the apparatus, the frame, the context, the language.

Science, then, becomes a conversation — not with a mute object, but with an active world. We do not command it. We listen, respond, refine our questions, become more receptive to what the world is saying.


Practices of Attunement

What does it mean to practice science as attunement?

  • Observation becomes not passive looking, but disciplined listening — a practice of sensitivity to emergence, anomaly, rhythm.

  • Experimentation becomes not the testing of a hypothesis on a system, but an encounter with a system — an unfolding relationship whose outcome depends on mutual configuration.

  • Measurement becomes not an assertion of certainty, but a mode of entanglement — we do not observe from the outside, but participate in what becomes visible.

  • Modelling becomes not prediction as domination, but exploration of possible worlds — scaffolds for imagination and responsiveness.

In all of this, science becomes a craft of attention, a means of honing our capacity to notice what the world is asking of us.


The Ethos of Attunement

Attunement is not a method so much as a stance — a way of being with the world. It requires:

  • Humility: an openness to being surprised, corrected, transformed by what we find.

  • Responsiveness: a willingness to let our frameworks shift in response to phenomena, rather than forcing phenomena to fit our frameworks.

  • Care: not only in the sense of precision, but in the deeper sense of commitment — a responsibility toward what we come to know.

This is not to romanticise science, but to remember its roots: in wonder, in encounter, in a desire to learn with the world rather than stand over it.


Attunement Is Not Passivity

To attune is not to withdraw. It is to engage more deeply.

A violinist in tune with her instrument does not stand back. She participates fully — with technique, emotion, and discipline. She shapes sound in relationship with the wood, the string, the air, the room, the audience.

So too with science. Attunement does not mean silence or detachment. It means embodied, situated participation — a tuning-in to what the world can become in our midst.


Toward a Relational Ethic of Inquiry

This shift from control to attunement reframes the very aim of science.

  • It is no longer about extracting knowledge, but cultivating relationship.

  • No longer about transcending the world, but dwelling within it more skilfully.

  • No longer about reduction, but about making visible the patterns of interbeing.

Science becomes not the conquest of uncertainty, but the art of dancing with complexity.

And that, perhaps, is its deepest power: not to make the world obey, but to help us become more capable partners in its unfolding.

5 Objectivity as Situated Participation

If relational science invites us to shift from control to attunement, it also calls us to reimagine what we mean by objectivity.

For centuries, objectivity has been framed as detachment — the stance of a neutral, disembodied observer, capable of stepping outside context, emotion, or perspective to see the world “as it really is.”

But no such view-from-nowhere exists.

In a relational frame, objectivity is not the absence of perspective, but the deep recognition of situatedness. It is not a god’s-eye view, but a discipline of accountability — to the entanglements that make knowledge possible.

Let us explore what it means to reclaim objectivity as a practice of situated participation.


The Illusion of Detachment

Classical science inherits the Enlightenment ideal of the rational observer: one who can rise above bias, suppress subjectivity, and deliver truths unsullied by perspective.

But this ideal collapses under scrutiny:

  • No observation is free from framing. What we notice depends on what we expect, what we ask, what tools we use, what language we speak.

  • No observer is free from embodiment. We are always located — in histories, cultures, values, affects.

  • No method is free from intervention. The very act of inquiry changes the system inquired into.

The fantasy of detachment masks the real conditions of knowledge: we are always inside the world we study.


Situatedness as Strength

If there is no neutral vantage point, then all knowledge is situated. But this is not a flaw — it is what makes knowing possible.

Situatedness grounds inquiry in real relationships: with tools, communities, practices, and places. It forces us to be explicit about the assumptions we bring and the conditions under which our claims hold.

A relational view thus redefines objectivity:

Objectivity is not what escapes perspective, but what owns it.
It is what can be held accountable across contexts, because it has made its commitments visible.

In this sense, objectivity is not a barrier to ethics — it is a mode of ethical relation. It says: here is what I see, from where I stand, with what consequences.


Participation as Epistemic Virtue

Objectivity in relational science is not only situated — it is participatory. Knowing arises in interaction, not isolation.

This has radical implications:

  • The observer is part of the phenomenon. We must account for how our methods and models shape what appears.

  • The knower is in dialogue. Knowledge is not monologic, but emerges through engagement — with data, peers, communities, even nonhuman agencies.

  • The claim is never final. Every result is an invitation to further testing, retuning, and recontextualisation.

This is not relativism. It is responsible pluralism: the understanding that truth is provisional, but not arbitrary; that robustness arises from diversity, dialogue, and iterative refinement.


Accountability, Not Absolutism

In this framework, the integrity of science comes not from erasing the self, but from situating the self — and remaining accountable to its effects.

This means:

  • Reporting not just what was done, but how and why.

  • Acknowledging the frameworks and commitments that shaped inquiry.

  • Welcoming critique as an opportunity for refinement, not as a threat.

Here, objectivity becomes not a position of control, but a process of ongoing negotiation — with the world, with others, and with ourselves.


From Objectivity to Response-Ability

The deepest insight of relational objectivity is this:

To know is not to hold the world at a distance, but to become more response-able — more capable of responding to what we encounter.

This is not about abandoning rigour. It is about anchoring rigour in relationship.

It calls for a science that is:

  • Transparent about its standpoint

  • Reflexive about its effects

  • Committed to dialogue, revision, and care

In short, a science that earns trust not by pretending to be outside the world, but by showing how seriously it takes its place within it.

6 Knowledge in the Web of Practice

Knowledge, in the relational view, is not a static set of facts stored in minds or texts. It is a living practice — something we do, together, in specific contexts, with specific tools, toward specific ends.

To know is to participate in a web of practices: conceptual, material, social, affective.

And practices are never neutral. They organise what can be seen, said, measured, imagined. They bring some realities forth while excluding others. They are modes of world-making.

In this post, we explore how a relational science reorients our view of knowledge — not as representation, but as participation in practice.


Practices Make Knowledge Possible

Every scientific discipline is shaped by its practices:

  • The kinds of instruments it uses

  • The questions it finds intelligible

  • The metaphors it draws on

  • The categories it deploys

  • The norms it enforces

These are not incidental. They constitute the field. What counts as data, explanation, rigour, insight — all are structured by the forms of life in which they are embedded.

As philosopher of science Karen Barad puts it:

“Scientific practices are not about discovering what is already there. They are about intra-acting with the world to bring forth specific phenomena.”


Knowing Is Not Spectating

In this view, knowledge is not the mirror of nature. It is world-involving activity.

This means:

  • We don’t find pre-given facts lying around. We enact realities by engaging with the world in specific ways.

  • We don’t reveal a single truth. We generate multiple, partial, and often incommensurable truth effects, each anchored in different material-semiotic practices.

  • We don’t stand outside the system. We are within the unfolding of what becomes real.

Knowing, then, is a way of inhabiting the world — of making sense in ways that are materially, socially, and ethically situated.


Material-Semiotic Entanglements

In relational science, meaning and matter cannot be separated. Every practice is material-semiotic:

  • The concepts we use are inseparable from the instruments we use to generate them.

  • The measurements we take are entangled with the models that define what is measurable.

  • The “results” we produce are shaped by our questions, methods, and interpretive frameworks.

There is no raw data untouched by theory, and no pure theory untouched by history.

Every scientific claim emerges from a network of enactments — a choreography of bodies, machines, languages, values, and protocols.


Communities of Practice

This also means that science is not an individual pursuit, but a collective craft.

  • Knowledge grows through interaction — not just with phenomena, but with peers, mentors, reviewers, readers.

  • Disciplines function as communities of practice, where newcomers learn the ropes, acquire the gestures, inherit the vocabularies.

  • Paradigms persist not because they are “true,” but because they hold up under specific constraints and reproduce institutional stability.

Scientific knowledge, like all cultural practice, is sustained by participation — and always carries the traces of its social, historical, and affective conditions.


Situated Agency and the Ethics of Practice

To participate in knowledge-making is to exercise situated agency. We are not omnipotent, but neither are we powerless.

We inherit ways of seeing and doing, but we can reflect, revise, and reimagine them.

This gives rise to an ethics of practice:

  • Are our methods inclusive or exclusionary?

  • Do our tools conceal as much as they reveal?

  • Are we attentive to what is rendered invisible, uncountable, or unintelligible?

The relational scientist does not simply ask “What is true?” but also “What does this practice do — and for whom?”


Knowing as Making-with

If we are always entangled in the world we study, then knowledge is not a stepping back but a making-with.

It is a dance of alignment and invention — learning to feel the rhythms of the real, while crafting new ways of orienting within it.

To know is to participate in the weaving of world and meaning, responsibly.

And this, ultimately, is what relational science teaches:

Knowledge is not what we have. It is how we relate.

7 Science as Co-Creation

If relational science begins by abandoning the dream of pure detachment, it ends with a profound revaluation of what science is for.

Science, in the relational view, is not about domination.
Not about standing above, mapping below.
Not about fixing reality once and for all.

It is about co-creation — entering into relationship with the world in ways that generate new patterns of possibility.

This post gathers the strands of our series and weaves them into a final proposition:

A relational science is not a knowledge-extracting machine. It is a world-making practice of care.


Science as Response-Ability

Throughout this series, we’ve seen that scientific knowledge is not a passive mirror but an active construction — shaped by:

  • The models we build

  • The measurements we take

  • The categories we deploy

  • The questions we ask

  • The relations we enter

In every case, we are not just observers of the world, but participants in its unfolding.

To know is to be implicated.

This calls for a new ethic of science — one grounded not in objectivity as detachment, but in response-ability: the ability to respond well to what we are entangled with.


From Mastery to Mutuality

Modern science arose with the promise of mastery:
Predict, control, and optimise nature for human ends.

But in the Anthropocene, this dream has become untenable — and dangerous.

Relational science offers a different ethos:

  • From extracting value to co-creating meaning

  • From standing over to standing with

  • From control to care

This does not mean abandoning rigour. It means deepening it — recognising that every model and method is an ethical choice, shaping what kinds of futures become thinkable, sayable, and liveable.


The Work of Reworlding

Relational science is not just about understanding how things are.
It is about participating in how things become.

This is what we might call reworlding:

  • Reimagining what counts as knowledge

  • Reconfiguring our ways of seeing and measuring

  • Reweaving our relations with earth, others, and futures

It is not science as salvation, but science as companion — one among many practices of sense-making and care, grounded in humility and hope.


Relational Science Is Already Here

This is not a utopian dream. It is already happening.

It is happening when Indigenous scientists and ecologists collaborate across knowledge systems.
When feminist and decolonial scholars challenge extractive paradigms.
When physicists ask not just “what is matter?” but “what relations make matter matter?”

Relational science is not a break from science. It is its ongoing transformation — a remembering of the truth that we are never outside the world we study.


To Relate Is to Hope

The most radical thing about relational science is not its critique of objectivity or its metaphysics of entanglement.

It is its invitation to hope.

To relate is to remain open — to possibility, to transformation, to care.

Relational science does not pretend to hold final answers. It asks:

  • What are we becoming together?

  • What kinds of worlds are we helping to bring forth?

  • How might we know in ways that honour the more-than-human, the invisible, the emergent?

To know is to choose.
To choose is to relate.
To relate is to take part in the shaping of the real.


The End of a Series, the Beginning of a Practice

This brings our series to a close. But relational science is not a doctrine. It is a practice — one that must be lived, revised, and reimagined in context.

Thank you for travelling this path.

May your knowing be participatory, your questions hospitable, and your science a site of care.

Coda: A Note from the Author

This series has been, for me, a kind of epistemic pilgrimage — not toward certainty, but toward clarity about uncertainty. It has deepened my conviction that science, at its best, is not a distancing device but a relational act. Not a monument to truth, but a means of participating more carefully, more accountably, in the unfolding of what is.

What began as a question — what would science look like if we truly took relationality seriously? — has become a set of coordinates I can no longer unsee. Science, it turns out, is never neutral, never free from entanglement. But this is not a flaw to be fixed. It is a condition to be honoured — and a gift to be received with care.

I hope that, if these reflections have done anything, they have made space for thinking otherwise: for knowing with, instead of knowing over. For asking not just what is true, but what kind of world are we helping to bring forth by calling it so?

10 June 2025

Relational Praxis: Action as Worldmaking

1 What Is Praxis? From Agency to Co-Agencement

If epistemology asks how we come to know, and desire asks how we come to want, then praxis asks: how do we come to act?

Praxis is not simply the execution of a plan or the carrying out of a will. It is not reducible to behaviour, movement, or even choice. The term has its roots in ancient Greek philosophy, where praxis meant action that arises from ethical reflection — not action upon the world, but in and with the world, grounded in a view of what it means to live well.

In this relational frame, we begin with a different premise: that action is never solitary. It is never just mine. To act is always to act with — with others, with histories, with contexts, with ecologies, with forces and affordances that exceed and include the self.

From Agency to Co-Agencement

Modern notions of agency often carry a deep residue of individualism: the agent as a bounded subject, a sovereign chooser. In this view, action is a form of imposition — something an agent does to the world. But this framing is insufficient for the kind of entangled reality we actually inhabit.

In relational thought, we shift from agency to what Deleuze and Guattari called agencement — not agency as possession, but as arrangement or assemblage. Agencement is not what one does, but what comes together to make action possible. And when this assemblage involves multiple parties — human and nonhuman — it becomes co-agencement: the relational configuration through which something happens.

Thus, in place of the image of an isolated agent acting on the world, we have a web of interdependent forces — bodily, social, material, historical — that coalesce to make action happen. Action, then, is not what I have, but what we emerge into together.

Praxis as Situated, Participatory Knowing-Doing

Praxis, in this sense, is always:

  • Situated — It unfolds within particular relational and material contexts. There is no abstract action, only action somewhere, with something.

  • Participatory — It arises through involvement, not detachment. To act is to enter into relation.

  • Worldmaking — Every act helps shape the world we co-inhabit. Even inaction is not neutral.

This also means that every praxis is a kind of knowing-with — an epistemological moment in itself. When I participate in the making of something (a protest, a ritual, a shared meal, a new form of care), I am not merely acting; I am coming to know differently. I am coming to feel differently. Praxis is an epistemology in motion.

Why This Matters Now

In a world marked by ecological degradation, social fragmentation, and institutional collapse, the question of how we act — and with whom — is more urgent than ever. The old metaphors of control, mastery, and intervention are failing us. What we need are ways of thinking and doing that honour entanglement, vulnerability, and co-becoming.

Relational praxis offers not a blueprint, but a posture: a way of leaning in, of being responsive, of attending to the openings that emerge in the cracks of systems.

It is not heroic. It is humble, grounded, and collective.

And it begins, always, with the question: Who and what am I acting with?

2 Acts Are Never Alone — Meaning as Co-Enacted

If praxis is action as worldmaking, then each act is not a solitary event but a node in a dense network of relations. Actions ripple outward, entwined with the intentions, responses, histories, and materialities around them.

Action as a Co-Enacted Process

When we act, our deeds don’t float free. They are embedded within—and shaped by—the webs of relationships that surround us. Consider a simple gesture, like offering a cup of tea. This act:

  • Involves the relationships between giver and receiver,

  • Draws on cultural meanings around hospitality,

  • Relies on material objects and their affordances (the cup, the tea),

  • Resonates with histories of shared moments.

The meaning of this act is not fully contained in the one who acts. Instead, it is co-enacted — brought forth in relation, through interaction and interpretation.

From Intentionality to Distributed Meaning

Traditional views of action emphasise intentionality: the idea that meaning and purpose reside in the actor’s mind. But relational praxis invites us to see meaning as distributed across the acting assemblage.

The act is not a static “thing” with fixed meaning, but a dynamic event whose significance unfolds in the relational field. This includes:

  • How others respond,

  • The cultural and social contexts,

  • The material environment,

  • The historical moment.

Meaning is not carried by the act as a “package,” but emerges in the relational process.

Meaning as Emergent and Multiplicitous

This means an act can have multiple meanings, depending on who participates and how. A protest march can be:

  • An expression of solidarity,

  • A site of political conflict,

  • A performance of identity,

  • A moment of collective joy or grief.

Each of these meanings is real and enacted through participation.

Implications for Responsibility and Ethics

Because actions are never isolated, responsibility also becomes a shared and ongoing negotiation. To act is to enter a field of co-responsibility — with people, environments, and histories.

Ethics, then, is less about adherence to fixed rules and more about attuning to the complex relational dynamics and their effects. It is about listening, responding, and being accountable to the world one acts within.

3 Action as Language — The Grammar of Doing

If relational praxis reveals action as a co-enacted process of meaning-making, then it follows that our actions have a grammar — a systemic organisation that shapes how doing communicates meaning in the world.

Actions Are Structured Like Language

Just as language is more than words strung together — it has grammar, syntax, and patterns — so too do our actions have an underlying structure. This “grammar of doing” guides how acts relate to each other, how sequences unfold, and how meanings are realised.

Consider everyday actions:

  • Greeting someone with a smile,

  • Offering a handshake,

  • Sitting down to eat a meal.

Each of these is patterned in culturally shaped ways that others understand and respond to.

Processes and Participants: Roles in Action

In systemic functional linguistics (SFL), language is analysed in terms of processes (verbs) and participants (nouns). Similarly, actions have:

  • Processes: The kind of doing — giving, receiving, moving, creating, destroying.

  • Participants: The actors and objects involved in the act.

This framework lets us analyse actions for their functional meaning: who is doing what to whom, with what effect.

Actions as Meaningful Choices

Just as speakers choose words from a system of possibilities, actors choose how to perform their actions within a system of cultural and social norms. This choice:

  • Shapes how an act is interpreted,

  • Influences its relational effects,

  • Creates potential for new meanings and worldings.

From Individual Acts to Social Practices

Over time, repeated patterns of action become social practices — shared ways of doing that structure collective life. Social practices are the grammar of collective worldmaking, shaping how groups co-create meaning and shape reality.

Implications for Transformation

Understanding action’s grammar empowers us to:

  • Become more conscious of how our actions “speak”,

  • Recognise the patterns we inhabit,

  • Explore new ways of acting that can shift relational fields and create new possibilities.

4 The Materiality of Action — Bodies, Environments, and Tools

If action is the grammar of doing, it is not a disembodied grammar. Action always unfolds somewhere, through someone, with something. Its medium is the material world — and its meanings are entangled with bodies, environments, and tools.

Bodies: The Lived Ground of Praxis

Every action is bodily, even the most “mental” of acts. Speaking requires vocal muscles. Thinking quietly often involves posture, breath, gaze. Our bodies:

  • Constrain what is possible (we cannot fly unaided),

  • Extend our capacities (a gesture can embrace or reject),

  • Remember patterned actions (habits, muscle memory, choreographies of work and care).

The body is not a container of meaning but a medium of meaning — a living site where relation takes form.

Environments: Action Is Situated

We do not act in a vacuum. We act with and within environments:

  • A conversation in a quiet garden feels different than one in a crowded subway.

  • Walking barefoot on moss elicits different movements than walking on concrete.

  • Cultural, architectural, and ecological environments invite and inhibit forms of action.

In relational terms, action is always a co-response to a setting that is itself partly shaped by previous actions. We are shaped by the worlds we co-shape.

Tools and Artefacts: Mediated Action

Tools are not neutral extensions of the body. They participate in meaning-making:

  • A pen guides the gesture of writing differently than a keyboard.

  • A smartphone mediates attention, pace, and tone.

  • Ritual tools — chalices, incense, drums — infuse action with affective resonance.

Tools stabilise certain possibilities while closing off others. They are materialised memory, carrying histories of use and the intentions of their makers.

Material Semiotics: Matter Means

To speak of the “materiality” of action is not to reduce it to physics. It is to say that:

  • Matter is semiotic — it helps make meaning,

  • The material world is not mute but responsive,

  • Knowing and doing emerge from this entanglement with the real.

In relational praxis, action is never merely symbolic or spiritual. It is always also material — and therefore consequential, embodied, and grounded.

5 Action and Temporality — Rhythm, Repetition, and Change

Action always takes place in time, but it does not merely occur in a neutral temporal container. It shapes time as it moves through it. In this post, we explore how action carries and creates temporalities — through rhythm, repetition, and transformation.

Action Is Rhythmic

No action is isolated. It pulses. It returns. It syncopates with other actions.

  • Walking has a rhythm: step, step, step.

  • Conversation has a rhythm: turn-taking, pause, reply.

  • Cooking dinner, chanting in protest, brushing teeth — all are temporal patterns.

These rhythms are not trivial; they coordinate life. They bind us to shared worlds, linking inner tempo to social time.

Repetition: The Time of the Usual

Much action is repetitive. This is not failure — it is fidelity.

  • Habits form through repetition, and so do skills, roles, identities.

  • Shared rituals rely on repetition: lighting candles, bowing, saying grace.

  • Political and cultural norms are enacted again and again, stabilised by the repetition of action across time.

Repetition is how meaning becomes durable. But repetition is never mechanical — it is always relational. We repeat differently depending on context, intention, feeling.

Transformation: The Time of the New

Every repetition holds the possibility of variation. Even the most familiar act may shift:

  • A habitual gesture may take on new meaning in a different situation.

  • A repeated phrase may suddenly be heard differently, provoking reflection or rupture.

  • A tool used in a new way — a fork as a lockpick — can break expectation.

Through subtle or dramatic variation, change emerges from the inside of repetition. This is how action makes time not just cyclical, but historical — it builds toward difference.

Kairos and Chronos: Multiple Temporalities

Action unfolds in chronos (clock time), but also in kairos (opportune time):

  • A protest at the “right moment” shifts a public conversation.

  • A word said “too soon” or “too late” misses its mark.

  • A kiss, a refusal, a revelation — all live or die by timing.

Praxis is not merely what we do, but when we do it — how we sense the moment, how we respond with attunement or dissonance.


In relational praxis, action is not a point on a timeline. It is a shaper of time — rhythmic, recursive, and responsive. Through action, we create the temporalities by which we live.

6 Power and Responsibility — Acting-with vs Acting-over

All action is entangled with power. But not all power is the same. In this post, we explore how relational praxis reframes power not as dominance, but as participation — and how responsibility flows from this shift.

Power-Over: The Legacy of Control

In many traditions, power is imagined as power-over:

  • The power to command, coerce, or control.

  • The ability to enforce outcomes unilaterally.

  • A model of agency rooted in separation and superiority.

This is the power of the sovereign, the CEO, the coloniser — the one who acts on the world, not with it.

But power-over fractures relations. It alienates the actor from the acted-upon. It suppresses the unpredictability of response. It treats others — human and nonhuman — as tools or obstacles.

Power-With: Relational Agency

Relational praxis shifts the frame: from power-over to power-with.

  • Power emerges not from domination, but from coordination.

  • Agency is not located in the isolated individual, but in the relation itself.

  • Influence happens through dialogue, resonance, co-creation.

A conductor has power not by silencing the orchestra, but by playing with its potential. A skilled facilitator empowers action not by imposing vision, but by making space for emergence.

This is a power that does not diminish others but amplifies mutual becoming.

Responsibility Is Response-Ability

If power is relational, so is responsibility. It is not simply a duty to uphold fixed rules, but a capacity to respond well in entangled situations:

  • To feel what the moment calls for.

  • To listen before acting.

  • To anticipate consequences not just for oneself, but for the shared field of life.

In relational terms, to act is always to involve others, and to be answerable to the worlds one helps shape.

Responsibility is not a burden imposed from without. It is the ethical contour of agency in a relational world.

Ethics as Worldmaking

Relational ethics is not rule-following. It is world-forming. Every action is a wager:

  • What kind of relation does it enact?

  • What kind of future does it make possible?

  • What values are embodied in the way the act is performed?

Power-with and responsibility-with are not idealistic opposites to realpolitik — they are the conditions of sustainable becoming in a more-than-human world.


Relational praxis understands power not as control but as participation, and responsibility not as guilt but as attunement. To act well is to respond well — and to craft a world in which others can, too.

7 Praxis as Poiesis — Making the World With(in) Us

The journey through relational praxis has brought us here — to a view of action not as intervention in a passive world, but as an act of worldmaking. In this final post, we bring the threads together by reclaiming an ancient word: poiesis.

Poiesis: The Making That Makes Us

In classical Greek, poiesis meant “to make” — but not just to fabricate or produce. Poiesis referred to a generative kind of making, one that brings something into being. A poem is not simply written; it is brought forth. A new friendship is not engineered; it is cultivated.

In relational praxis, all meaningful action is poietic:

  • It does not just act on the world, but participates in its unfolding.

  • It does not merely shape external reality, but transforms the actor themselves.

  • It does not assume a finished self, but co-emerges with the world being made.

To act, then, is to be made — not just to make.

The World Within the Act

Every act — no matter how small — carries a worldview:

  • The gesture of a hand either welcomes or excludes.

  • The tone of a voice either dignifies or diminishes.

  • The design of a system either enables or obstructs.

There is no neutral action. Every doing is a kind of saying. Every saying carries a grammar of value. To act is to perform a stance toward the world — and to make that stance real.

Co-Making, Co-Becoming

In this sense, praxis is always with:

  • With others, whose responses shape and reshape what action means.

  • With histories, which echo in our patterns and inheritances.

  • With futures, which are seeded in the affordances we create or foreclose.

Relational praxis calls us to be craftspersons of possibility. To act not for dominance or display, but for resonance. For co-flourishing. For the patient shaping of more livable worlds.

An Invitation

We end this series not with a conclusion, but an invitation:
To see your next act — however ordinary — not as a unit of productivity, but as a poietic gesture.

What world will it bring forth?
What relation will it renew?
What self will it call you to become?

The answer is never yours alone. It is made with, and always in the making.

09 June 2025

Relational Ontology of Desire

1 Desire Is Not Possession, but Orientation

Desire is often spoken of as if it were a hunger: a private lack that seeks satisfaction in an object. In everyday speech, we “want something,” “yearn for it,” “try to get it,” “have it,” or “lose it.” The grammar of possession saturates our metaphors of desire. But what if this is not the most helpful way to think about wanting?

This series proposes an alternative: that desire is not a form of ownership, but a form of orientation — a way of being turned toward the world, entangled with it, directed through it.

In Systemic Functional Linguistics (SFL), mental processes — the processes of consciousness — are classified into types. One such type is the desiderative, including verbs like want, wish, hope, fear, long for, and believe in. These are not descriptions of inner containers of emotion. They are projections: the speaker positions themselves toward a possible future or state of affairs. To desire is to mean — not just about the world, but toward it.

When a child says “I want to be an astronaut,” they are not expressing a transaction with a future object. They are articulating a stance toward the world — one of openness, aspiration, and alignment with certain values. That desire orients them. It brings parts of the world into relevance (rockets, stars, exploration) while backgrounding others. Over time, that orientation may be reinforced or redirected. The child may become a physicist or a teacher or a poet. But the initial desire was not a failed possession. It was a direction taken — a line of flight.

This shift from possession to orientation is crucial for a relational ontology. It allows us to see desire as something fundamentally ecological. We are not sealed units pursuing self-contained goals. We are situated beings, always already interwoven with contexts, histories, and others. Our desires emerge not from inner voids, but from our participation in a world that is already meaningful — and always becoming more so.

When we treat desire as possession, we often reduce it to commodity: “I want this thing.” But when we recognise desire as orientation, we begin to ask: “What kind of world am I aligning with? Who else is affected by this orientation? What does this desire make possible — or impossible?”

To desire is to lean. To angle oneself. To feel the pull of something not yet realised. In this view, even unfulfilled desire is not failure; it is trajectory.

In the posts to come, we will explore how desire participates in world-making, how it is patterned by language, how myth expresses collective longing, and how to cultivate a more ethical stance of wanting-with.

But for now, we begin with this reframing:
Desire is not what we have — it is how we move.

2 Desire as World-Making

Desire is not just something we feel — it is something we do. And in doing it, we help bring worlds into being.

The metaphor of desire as lack has long dominated Western thought. From Plato’s eros to Freud’s drive theory, desire is imagined as a deficit to be filled. But if we approach desire as orientation rather than possession, a different ontology emerges: desire becomes a generative force. It is not the shadow of what-is-missing, but the movement of what-is-becoming.

To desire is to make selections: from the endless flow of experience, we highlight, foreground, and follow certain paths. These selections are not neutral. They form patterns of attention, care, memory, and meaning. Desire links objects, people, places, and possibilities into constellations. These constellations shape not only how we see the world, but what the world becomes.

This is why desire is never private. Even our most solitary longings are saturated with the social: shaped by language, culture, history, and ideology. When I say “I want,” I am already participating in meaning systems that predate me and extend beyond me. My desire is mine only in the sense that it is my way of orienting through our shared world.

In this sense, desire is performative. It helps enact the realities it projects. When a community desires freedom, dignity, or justice, it is not simply naming what it lacks — it is constructing the horizon toward which it moves. The same is true of desire for wealth, power, or purity. Desire doesn’t just express a world; it helps institute one.

This is most visible in collective narratives. Myths, ideologies, spiritual traditions, even branding campaigns — all shape desire by telling stories of what is worth wanting. They offer orientations: toward salvation, success, belonging, transcendence, or transformation. And in orienting ourselves within these stories, we contribute to their ongoing enactment.

This is world-making — not in the sense of solipsistic fantasy, but in the deeply relational sense that meaning and reality are always co-constituted. What we desire matters, because it matters materially: desire directs action, binds communities, configures values, and inflects possibility.

We live in the worlds our desires help sustain.

In the next post, we’ll explore how this plays out in language, especially through the grammar of desiderative mental processes. But for now, let us pause and ask:

What kind of world is your desire making possible?

3 The Grammar of Desire

If desire is a way of orienting toward the world, then language is one of its most powerful instruments. Not because language represents desire, but because it enacts it. And like all enactments, it has a grammar — a set of patterned ways in which desire is construed and made real in meaning.

Systemic Functional Linguistics (SFL) offers us a useful lens. In this model, meaning is shaped by processes, each type bringing its own ontological commitments. Among these are mental processes, which are concerned with the inner life of consciousness. These divide into two major subtypes:

  • Cognitive: thinking, knowing, perceiving

  • Desiderative: wanting, hoping, fearing, longing

Where cognitive processes tend to project propositions — statements about what is or might be — desiderative processes tend to project proposals. They construe what ought to be, or what is wished for, feared, sought, or resisted.

In other words, cognition aligns with probability; desire aligns with obligation and inclination. And this distinction is not only grammatical — it is ontological. Knowing and wanting are not simply different acts of mind; they are different ways of participating in the unfolding of meaning.

Consider:

  • I know she’ll come (projection of a likely proposition)

  • I hope she’ll come (projection of a wished-for proposal)

  • I want her to come (projection of a desired outcome)

  • I fear she’ll come (projection of an unwanted possibility)

Each of these projects a different relation between self and world. The subject is not static, but dynamically involved in shaping — or resisting — the potential actualisation of meaning.

What this tells us is profound: desire is not just a content of thought; it is a semiotic relation. It positions the subject toward the possible. It is a kind of leaning-into the world, through language, shaping not only what is said, but what is pursued, avoided, imagined, or enacted.

The grammar of desire thus gives us access to its social life. For while desire often feels deeply personal, it is always already public — expressed in genres, echoed in clichés, institutionalised in rituals, entangled in systems. Even the way we say “I want” is shaped by norms and narratives far beyond our control.

And this matters. Because if we learn to read the grammar of desire, we can begin to recognise how we are positioned — and how we might reposition ourselves and others. We can begin to ask not only what we desire, but how that desire is structured, and who it serves.

In the next post, we’ll pursue this line of thought into the domain of myth and belief — not as failures of knowledge, but as projects of affective commitment. What are we really doing when we believe in something?

4 Belief and the Affect of Commitment

What does it mean to believe in something?

Not just to believe that something is true — as one might believe that the Earth orbits the sun, or that tomorrow it will rain — but to invest oneself in a proposition as a matter of affective commitment. This kind of belief — the in kind — is not primarily cognitive, but desiderative. It is not about verification, but about orientation. It is not a claim about what is, but a gesture toward what matters.

And that makes it a different kind of act entirely.

To believe in justice, in love, in an afterlife, or in a mythic figure — these are not statements waiting for falsification. They are semiotic investments, alignments of the self with a world that is not fully present, but powerfully imagined. They are expressions of desire: to hope, to belong, to be vindicated, to resist despair.

In this sense, belief is a mode of world-making. It projects not the probable, but the desirable; not the actual, but the aspirational. And it does so not merely at the individual level, but across collective life. Myths, rituals, symbols, and shared narratives function as technologies of belief, drawing communities into participation with imagined orders.

We might say, then, that myth is not failed science, but a different kind of knowing — one that binds affect to meaning. Not knowledge about the world, but knowledge with and through the world, as experienced by those who live within its semiotic textures.

To say “I believe in God” or “I believe in love” is not to offer a hypothesis. It is to position oneself toward a value, and to dwell there. It is to enact a certain kind of self-relation and world-relation — one marked by commitment, vulnerability, and continuity. Even when such beliefs are not epistemically justified, they are ethically meaningful.

That is why belief in this sense cannot be reduced to credulity or illusion. It is not naïve cognition, but affective alignment. It may indeed be wrong in factual terms, but it can still be right in relational ones. The question, then, is not always “Is it true?” but “What is made possible by this believing-with?”

To believe in something is to live toward it — to hold space for it in one's semiotic horizon. And that changes everything.

In the next post, we will explore how such desires and beliefs implicate us in ethical relations, and how the act of wanting is never neutral — but always already entangled with the lives of others.

5 Desire and the Lives of Others

Desire is never solitary.

Even when it feels like the most intimate expression of our inner life — a longing, a wish, a hope — it is already shaped by our relations with others. We come to want not simply through personal inclinations, but through shared imaginaries, inherited grammars, and relational attunements. Desire is, in this sense, always co-constituted.

This is not just a sociological point; it’s an ontological one. If the world is not made up of discrete entities but of relations, then our wanting is itself a kind of becoming-with. Every desire takes shape within a landscape of others — human and nonhuman, present and absent, remembered and imagined.

And so, we must ask: Whose life does our desire depend on? And whose life does it affect?

To want something is not neutral. It implicates us in the lives of others, because what we want often demands something of the world — its resources, its attention, its compliance. When we want to be recognised, supported, admired, believed — these desires make claims on others. Even the desire to be left alone is a relational move, marked by withdrawal rather than engagement.

If we are to take desire seriously, then, we must begin to see its ethical dimension. This means asking not just what we want, but how we want — and with whom. It means becoming attuned to the affective costs of our wanting, and to the structures of exclusion or extraction that our desires may unconsciously participate in.

Much of the violence in the world is justified by desire: the desire for safety, for purity, for certainty, for greatness. But so too are acts of care, solidarity, and resistance. The difference is not the presence or absence of desire, but the way it is oriented — whether it opens us to the lives of others, or seeks to secure itself at their expense.

To desire well is to desire with. It is to recognise that our longings do not begin or end within us, but are woven into shared fields of affect and meaning. It is to ask not “How can I get what I want?” but “What kind of world does my wanting help bring forth?”

And that is the beginning of an ethics.

In our final post, we will explore this ethical dimension of desire more fully — asking what it might mean to want-with rather than want-over, and to live desire as a shared responsibility rather than a private pursuit.

6. The Ethics of Wanting-with

If knowing is not about grasping an object but about participating in a world, then desiring is not about seizing a prize — it is about living-with a world.

Desire, we’ve seen, is relational through and through. It arises not in isolation but in the dense weave of encounters, histories, imaginaries, and attunements. And if that is true, then the way we desire is never just a matter of private feeling — it is always also a matter of public ethics.

This gives rise to a crucial distinction: wanting-over versus wanting-with.

Wanting-over sees desire as a zero-sum game. It treats the world as a resource to be used, others as obstacles or instruments, and fulfilment as a matter of control or acquisition. It underwrites extractivism, domination, and coercion — not just in economies, but in relationships, cultures, and spiritualities.

Wanting-with, by contrast, sees desire as an act of attunement. It recognises the other as co-participant in the field of becoming. It seeks not to bend the world to one’s will, but to form desires in relation — to want in ways that are mindful of others’ flourishing, of shared possibilities, of mutual transformation.

This is not an ethics of self-denial. It is not about suppressing desire or sacrificing joy. On the contrary, it invites us into richer, deeper, more sustaining forms of longing — desires that are not about possession but about connection, not about certainty but about openness, not about purity but about participation.

It challenges the myth of autonomous desiring subjects and instead affirms the reality of our interdependence. Our wants are never just ours; they emerge in worlds already shaped by care, by trauma, by power, by dreams. To want-with is to acknowledge this — and to choose to desire in a way that deepens, rather than denies, the web of life we’re part of.

This also invites a new spiritual imaginary. In place of myths of reward and punishment — of a God who satisfies the faithful and punishes the unbeliever — we might begin to imagine divinity itself as the desiring-with of all that is: a longing not to control, but to co-become. A yearning not to judge from above, but to join in love. A desire that honours the freedom of the other without withdrawing from relationship.

Such a vision does not end desire. It deepens it.

And so we end not with answers but with an invitation:
To become aware of what we want.
To trace where those wants come from.
To notice who they touch.
And to ask, again and again:

Is this the kind of wanting that makes the world more whole?